
The first time Lablu made me sit up, was when he reduced our lunch of fish curry to pile of spotless, translucent bones. We sat in a humid, grimy restaurant, floor black with wet prints of dirty shoes and dirty feet (it had been raining) having a quick lunch shoulder to shoulder with other sweaty, hungry men.
Lablu had insisted that I eat lunch at a better place, ” You- 200 taka at Imperial Hotel, I- 30 taka lunch, OK,” an earnest gesture which warmed my heart. It would have been indulgent, I thought, to reciprocate his well-meaning offer- travelling is after all, about getting out of your comfort zone, trying something different while you’re young and your body still holds up on you.
But the day didn’t start off with a particular fondness for Lablu. He was too tame when it came to bargaining with rickshaw wallahs, he didn’t speak the best English, and he walked so fast I couldn’t keep up- I remember feeling genuinely relieved everytime I saw his red shirt, after he disappeared for a few seconds in the crowd.
Imagine getting lost in Dhaka when you still have stories to do!
But as the day progressed, I realised that Lablu was a man with his own stories to tell. It was 3.30pm and we had been early for a 4pm appointment. There was nothing to do in that residential area, and tea shops are always a stone’s throw away anywhere in Bangladesh, so I decided tea it shall be. We found this shop under some trees behind a crumbling brick wall, there was a University right opposite.
I struck up a conversation about school and Lablu started telling me about his teenage love– Minu. They met in class 10, he said, ” can’t eat, can’t sleep without seeing her.” He would hide behind trees on the road back to school just to see her, and be near her house just for a glimpse of her– a sweet puppy love that sounds so much like Singaporean JC stalkers
He said he wrote diaries of songs and poems for her, but he had to leave for Saudi Arabia for work some years later, and his father threw these precious writings away.
He also talked about his best friend (whose name I forgot) who would stand up for him in fights at school. ” He put some money in my bag for me, before I left to Saudi Arabia,” Lablu recalled fondly. He had made a pact for Minu to wait for him 3 years and 6 months before he came back to Bangladesh to marry her, but he could not return by then. Minu, he said, is now married to an Indian. I could see him sipping his dhut cha, holding back his tears.I hadn’t come to make anyone cry and was taken aback at Lablu’s emotional honesty.
Having lived my life in a different country, a different context, I was skeptical as to why someone would share his life so openly with a stranger he barely knew for half a day.I still am- which I don’t know is a wise or sad thing.
Lablu says his dream is simple- to go overseas and work again, so that he can afford the 80,000 taka Honda Hero he’d always wanted. ” That one,” he said, pointing out to his dream machine from our CNG.
I really thank Lablu for sharing his story- the human connection was refreshing. The days down at Chittagong were really draining for me- Alif and I started the day at 7, sometimes ending as late as 11 or 12, because it was tough to get hold of shipbreaking workers in the day. I remember feeling a sense of relief when I returned to Dhaka — the camaradarie in the team, in room 609 and around Thai Cream Soup in our favourite restaurant really kept me going. But it is small and unexpected stories, like Lablu’s, that really make the trip worthwhile.
These days I longer feel so distant when I meet a Bangladeshi worker round my block.
In fact, when I came home I was surprised that I didn’t mind curry by third meal in.
Hmm travelling his this weird effect on me: It makes the world seem bigger (there are so many places I have yet to see) , yet smaller (there are common topics between strangers) all at the same time.
Kash